You know, that wad of juicy bubble gum is akin to the crazy things that happen in our lives. We meet and date the wrong person we can’t get rid of, we start that sucky new job that pays so much that we can’t leave, we buy that thing that creates debt that we can’t pay off. I could go on and on. We create circumstances that feel like they are wrapped around us like a vice. Think of how we felt only a year ago. Stuck in our homes, stuck wearing face coverings, stuck, stuck, stuck!
How do we end up amid such challenges? How do we end up in situations that seem like we have to be Harry Houdini to escape?
When I was a young adult, I spent a lot of time stuck due to my spontaneous and really poorly thought-through decisions. I once bought a brand new car, my first new car, right off of the showroom floor of the car dealership…DURING MY LUNCH BREAK! True story, my friends! They had to lift the glass to drive it out for me to buy it! To make matters worse, I paid FULL sticker price, no negotiation, no haggling! Man, oh, man! Although I did love the car, the payment was not manageable at the time, and I couldn’t even sell it because I owed far more than it was worth. Just like that sticky gum on the wheel of my scooter, I was stuck! My “stuckness” caused me to live with a lack mindset eating breakfast cereal for dinner and watching every penny because I stuck myself right in the pocket buying a car I could hardly pay for! My thoughts and actions were like tightening the screws on the steel box of my stuckness.
Living with a disability, I have occasional bouts of feeling stuck. Sometimes I wish I could just run down the street or hike up the side of a hill or mountain. Practicing acceptance helps me get unstuck. The thing is, in the moment of feeling like I’d like to liberate myself from my scooter by leaving it at the curb of my house with a sign that says “free,” I’ve learned to stop and accept what I CAN do versus focusing on what I can’t. I’ve turned to gratitude for my physical fitness and focus on how happy I am to have the ability to get a good workout in. My “stuckness” goes away when I treat myself with kindness, compassion, acceptance, and understanding.
Here’s another personal example of “stucktivity” that I voluntarily stepped into, turned, locked the door behind me, then ate the friggin key!
Again in my younger days, I was offered a job that paid what at the time seemed like a lot of money. That job offer came in, and I was all over it. I didn’t even stop to consider how I’d fit into the organization, nor did I think much about the job itself…I just said, “YES!” After a very short time, I was miserable. I was married back then and became pregnant, so I was “stuck.” Yes, I know that pregnancy is more embraced in a job search nowadays, but not so much even a short 20 years ago. One day while nursing my sweet new baby boy, I quit! Taaadaa, Instantly unstuck! They actually called me to find out when I’d be back only days after giving birth. I had just had enough and decided to get “unstuck.” I started my own business, and saved enough money to move back home near my family, and eventually unstuck myself from my marriage, and the rest is history! The truth is that I was never stuck in the first place.
Believe me, there are other examples of stuckness in my life, but it’s the lessons that mean the most. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that taking a moment to breathe can stop bad decisions. I’ve learned to ask myself w “Girl, why do you need that?” Or “Girl, what are you doing?” The Universe always steps in to save me from me by helping me focus on my “SELF.” My SuperSELF!
It’s that invisible part of me that is always whole, magic, and complete. My SuperSELF is like my fairy godmother, who sits there inside me, just waiting to be called into action. She’s that brave woman who waves her magic wand and says “no!” when I can’t. She is that still small voice that quietly says “be careful” or “let’s hold off on that.” She prevents me from getting stuck in the first place.
Before we get into a potentially troublesome scenario, we must check in with our SuperSELVES. On that dating app, instead of swiping all willy nilly, why not pause, look and feel the energy of the person looking back at you from your screen. Yeah, I know that person is super hot, but hotness is NOT a barometer for determining stuckness potential. News flash… hot people can be weirdos too!
Instead of turning down that job offer strictly because they don’t pay enough, pause for a beat and check in with your SuperSELF. Ask, “SELF, is this the right job for me?” And wait for a bit. No, I am not encouraging indecisiveness. I am a pretty quick decision-maker. I am saying to avoid knee-jerk decisions based on a bunch of poorly thought out crap that has not been vetted adequately with your superSELF.
Before we get into a potentially troublesome scenario, we must check in with our SuperSELVES. On that dating app, instead of swiping all willy nilly, why not pause, look and feel the energy of the person looking back at you from your screen. Yeah, I know that person is super hot, but hotness is NOT a barometer for determining stuckness potential. News flash… hot people can be weirdos too!
Instead of turning down that job offer strictly because they don’t pay enough, pause for a beat and check in with your SuperSELF. Ask, “SELF, is this the right job for me?” And wait for a bit. No, I am not encouraging indecisiveness. I am a pretty quick decision-maker. I am saying to avoid knee-jerk decisions based on a bunch of poorly thought out crap that has not been vetted adequately with your superSELF.
Another solution I’ve leaned on to relieve that “stuck” feeling is energy shifting. Go outside, get moving, change the scenery for a few days, turn on your favorite upbeat music, and dance around like a fool! Not only will you feel better, but space opens in your conscious thoughts so that you may more clearly see the situation and take the appropriate action.
Stuckness can leave us feeling lonely and forgotten at times, but building a regular practice of sitting quietly with your higher power, asking for resolution, or just listening for the answers is paramount to your healing.
Let’s all get unstuck and peel our circumstances off like pink sticky bubble gum from our shoes. Let’s turn the lessons we learn into a proverbial screwdriver and turn that rusted and stuck bolt that stops us from moving forward. Let’s not confuse momentary “stuckness” with endless suffering. Instead, keep your mind focused, your vision clear, and push through it.
Are ya’ with me?
Love, Light, & Non-Stuck Living!
Thrive,
Cr8ab
CreativelyAble 
Love your writing‼️
LikeLike
Thank you CR!
LikeLike