Not Measuring Up and Feeling Empty!?

Every day I wake up intending to give my best to those I encounter. I try to say what needs to be said, avoid mistakes, be kind and happy but guess what? It’s just not possible. to be perfect.   I’ve learned that giving my best can only be measured by me… the one who’s best self is being given.
I know how frustrating it is to try to “measure up” to the standards of others. As a Human Resources professional, this is the time of year for performance reviews.  Many of us are paid to execute employee scoring systems that are skewed and subjective. I’ve even seen processes that are so formulaic and scientific with the intent of being more “fair” and less subjective.  However, these same processes run headlong into the wall of opinion and unfair subjectivity anyway!

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OK, so what do you do when you have truly given your best only to be told that the results of your efforts are substandard? Should you come out of the proverbial bag, yell and scream in anger? Should you give’em the “what for” and flip double middle fingers as you back out of a doorway?
I think NOT!
You should review your actions, accept your mistakes, reflect on your growth and development as a human being and remind yourself that you did enough. You did your best, you hold your head high and measure yourself and your actions by your own standards.
None of this means that you throw your hands in the air and give up, nor does it mean that your standards have to be lower than that of others. It means that you will never measure up to the bar set by others, you are only ever accountable to yourself.
If you love someone, love them with your whole heart, love them fearlessly, but if your love is not enough for them, love yourself enough to walk away.
If you go to work every day delivering your best and receiving constant feedback that it is not enough, maybe its time to find another job?
If you’re working on your social media presence trying to start a blog or an online business, being peppered with the anonymous negativity and unconstructive criticism. Push through it and just keep going.

If you are interviewing for jobs receiving rejections over and over again, don’t let it take you to a place where you are bitter. Believe me, that bitterness seeps through your pores.  Pull yourself together.

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Living our lives waiting for the approval of others can be like waiting for an Uber or a Lyft that never shows up!



Create a path that is right for you and boldly step into it like you are made of Teflon!

Listen to those that you trust, let the haters be, always do your best!

C’mon, we got this!



(Sorry, I’ve been super busy lately, thank you for reading!)


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