The 15 Best Things You Can Say to a Person…

***Action Required!****

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As you read this post choose at least one of the statements below to start a conversation with an important person in your life.  Think about someone who has been on your mind but you may not have talked to in a while. Maybe a person with whom you’ve had a disagreement or misunderstanding (an in-law, or an ex). How about a person you communicate with every day, but you’ve held back feelings, or said damaging things to in anger?  Yep, you just saw that person in your mind… dont try to change it now…THAT ONE!

You CAN choose more than one if you’d like, the more the merrier!

OK, so here’s what I’m asking you to do, as much for yourself as for the other person…

  • Call the person or better yet, see them face-to-face
    • this IS NOT a text or email exercise 
    • if you can’t do it voice-to voice (unless limited by a disability) wait until you can
  • Before you reach out to the person take several deep breaths
    • think about the reason you chose them, and prepare to tell them “why
  • Consider what you want them to hear you say
    • for clarity, make note of your thoughts
    • make sure your thoughts are clear in your own mind first
  • Focus on them and only them
    • have the time for a real conversation, don’t rush it
    • turn your phone off
    • allow ZERO interruptions
  • Be sincere and open
    • tell the truth, now is not the time for exaggeration or lying
    • have “no agenda’ or preconceived outcome
  • Listen to their response, if any
    • do not speak over their reply
    • be comfortable with long pauses
    • if they ask a question, answer it
  • Accept their response
    • don’t argue or challenge
    • don’t judge the outcome

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Here are The 15 BEST things you can say…

 
#15  I’m glad you’re my… (friend, wife, boss etc).
 
#14  I can’t imagine my life without you!
 
#13  I love spending time with you.
 
#12  You are beautiful/attractive/handsome inside and out!
 
#11  You are really good at… (being a mom, being a dad, taking care of the family, managing people, volunteering etc).

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THE 10 BEST!

#10  You are very special to me. (OR) You mean a lot to me.
 
#9  How can I help make things better for you?!  or How can I help get you through this?  (a person owns their own outcome; include the word “help”)
 
#8   I admire you because… (OR) I want to be more like you because..
 
#7   You are so smart/intelligent!
 
#6   I appreciate you.

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THE TOP 5!

#5    I trust you.
 
#4    Please forgive me for… (be specific)
 
#3    I Love You. (Can be cliche, make sure to elaborate)
 
#2   I forgive you for… (be specific, don’t accuse)

And the NUMBER ONE thing you can say is…

 

#1  THANK YOU!

 

Why don’t we do this more often?  Why do we wait until its eulogy time? Why do we hold grudges?  Even if you did not receive a positive response, I hope it felt good to get it off your chest. How did expressing your feelings feel to you? Did you repair an otherwise ugly situation?  Did they believe you? Why or why not? Did you make someone’s day? 

Kindness and love have been known to prevent loneliness, suicidal thoughts, depression and many other diseases.

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Don’t wait!  Let them know how you feel today.  

C’mon, we need a little more love in our lives, don’t we?

Please share your experience in the comments section.  Which statement did/will you choose?

Love, Light and… More Love!’

Cr8Ab
 

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