Flip is a term used primarily in the United States to describe purchasing an asset, and making improvements for a quick resale
Flop is the same as above, however, the purchaser is unable to recoup the purchase price upon resale
Many of us saw the drama associated with the divorce of HGTV’sFlip or Flop stars Tarek and Christina El Moussa. One thing we know (if you follow the show) is that they were not only flipping houses. They were growing and flipping their lives. If you watch shows from the earlier seasons you can see their appearances, attitudes, and confidence levels change. And what’s wrong with that?
If we stay in tune with our lives it is often clear to see where we need a little paint or fixing-up. The trick is staying in tune, accepting where you are, and what your life IS. Then begin redesigning aspects of your life as needed.
It is incredible that we spend more time thinking about our homes, kitchens, and bathrooms than we do our lives?
We hire architects to help us plan for a future design but we don’t take time to plan our future
We think about increasing property value, but we don’t give thought to how we add value to the lives of others
We give consideration to paint colors for mood, or entertaining, but don’t know what truly makes us happy or sad
We say “I LOVE my house” but can’t remember the last time we told those closest to us that we love them
We work at jobs we hate, for people we loathe, to pay for the home we “love”
We want the latest most efficient plumbing and electrical systems, in our homes. Yet we feed our bodies crap, with little or no thought to the inner workings of our bodily systems
I could go on and on!
If you think of your life in terms of a redesign or remodel, what would you FLIP to add value? And no, I am not talking about a new nose or a tummy tuck!
Consider the following areas:
When we are asked if we love ourselves we ALWAYS say “yes, of course!” But do we really? What does it mean to LOVE ourselves? Most of us are compassionate with everyone else, but not ourselves. We lob insults internally like, “I’m so stupid” or “I’m such an idiot?” When we are tired or burned out, we continue to push ourselves so hard that we end up with viruses and serious health issues.
Have compassion for you. Acknowledge that life is tough and take a break when you need to. Be understanding of yourself. Tell yourself that it is ok to be frustrated or sad or whatever. Give yourself space to move through the emotions.
The next time you are hurling insults in your mind stop and simply say the opposite of what you’re thinking. This will not only change your mood in the moment but over time will improve your self-confidence and self-love.
Why are you in an unsatisfying relationship? You are not hiding anything from your kids. Believe me, they know you’re not happy. If you don’t have any children or your children are adults, again I ask… “why?” I get it, life is complicated… blah, blah, blah!
Are you not in a relationship, but want to be? Is your list of “requirements” so long that no lover could EVER check all the boxes? You spend so much time at work and home, that there is no way anyone could find you anyway.
Start with a healthy look at your relationship. Accept your role in the situation. Focus less on what your partner did to you, and more on what YOU can do to make things better. Think of something you both love and DO IT… together. Step away from the monotony of “same ‘ol boring sex” and shake things up!
If the relationship is hopeless, have an open conversation with your partner. Discuss a go forward plan. If the relationship is toxic or dangerous, seek the support of family and friends. Talk to a professional. GET OUT!
If you want to be in a relationship, what are you doing to make yourself something special for your future partner? Make a list of what you have to offer versus what you want THEM to be. You must BE who you’re looking for.
Remove the clutter and residue of old relationships. Forgive them and send them love. Forgive yourself for the role you played. Thank them (and yourself) for the lesson(s) you learned and release it.
Accept that no one is perfect and bring positive energy, an open mind, and a smile to your next date.
“I’ll only have one french fry or one bite of that dessert”… 10 minutes later the plate of fries are gone or the whole dessert consumed! You wake up in the morning feeling tired and without energy and have no idea why! You haven’t had a good workout in days, weeks, months or even years! your scale weight is up and you don’t like what you see in the mirror. You may have had a recent health scare…yikes!
Eat your favorite foods in moderation followed by a brisk walk or dance party with the kids. Learn about nutrition so that you can make healthy choices. Get off the scale weight roller coaster. Focus on good health. Commit to a 20-minute exercise program at least 3 days per week. Accept responsibility for where you are and make new choices toward good health. Your health is up to you. Move forward to improved health (reach out to me if you need wellness coaching… cheap plug!).
Look, none of this is meant to create guilt! We are all works in progress. Be aware that there are areas in every life that need to be FLIPPED. The areas above are examples of a few of the hard questions we need to be asking ourselves.
Let’s not be afraid to do a “walk through” on our lives with our eyes wide open. Lets not be afraid to do a little touch-up or major construction as needed.
Remember, a home can be sold, but this life is what it is. Make the most of it.